UNITY:
A GIFT TO BE RECEIVED
We are suspicious of free gifts. Life teaches us that there are no free lunches, not really. There are strings attached, we assure ourselves, even when a gift appears to be free. We even seem embarrassed in the face of something really free. Ours is a "do it yourself" culture, and we don't want to be indebted to anyone. Perhaps it is our pride, but we hardly ever allow ourselves to say a meaningful, "Thank you." We lust for complete self reliance and are uncomfortable at the thought of really needing anyone else.
This
is what makes marriage a beautiful relationship and not just something to
endure. The wife who gets the message "I need you" from her
husband will be a happy
wife, and the husband that
conveys that feeling to his wife is doing himself a favor. There are lots
of reasons why Ouida and I have a good marriage, but an important one is
our dependence on each other. The message "I need you" is
mutually conveyed and it is unequivocal.
At
Christmas gatherings my family used to exchange gifts for our children
when we didn't bother to give each other anything. I recall one of my
brothers asking his wife, when his daughter received an unexpected gift,
"Is that covered?" We may agree with our Lord that "It is
more blessed to give than to receive," but we have hardly learned the
grace of receiving without giving. Is that covered? is typical of our age,
for we cannot bear to be in anyone's debt.
Is
this why we have trouble believing in the free grace of God? Unconditional
grace, no strings attached! It is indeed a free lunch, yea, an eternal
banquet and we don't have to be good enough or wise enough or right enough
to "Come to the feast." Once we learn that we are "put
right with God," which is what it means to be saved or justified, not
by any works on our part, but only by faith in what He has done for us,
then religion will be joyous and not burdensome. The joy of receiving,
abundantly and overwhelmingly, freely and unconditionally, is foreign to
many of us who have not yet learned to receive. So long as we believe
Satan's lie that "We have to do something to deserve it," we
will miss the greatest truth in human history, the saving power of God's
free grace. Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!
If
we could see unity in this light, as a gift to be received, it would
simplify the problem of division among Christians. We have difficulty
seeing it too as a free gift of God's grace, ours for the asking. Unity is
ours to attain, we suppose, through such efforts as unity forums and
ecumenical conclaves, or by "working Out differences." That
unity is a gift to be received is as difficult for us to comprehend as any
other dimension of God's magnanimous grace.
Our
response is to accept the proffered gift, and then to safeguard it in our
hearts and in our relationships with others. This is what Scripture
mandates: "Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through
the bond of peace" (Eph. 4:3). Unity is the Spirit's to give and ours
to receive and preserve. Even the resources for securing the gift are from
the Holy Spirit: "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient,
hearing with one another in love" (Eph. 4:2). These gracious
resources, humility, gentleness, and loving forbearance are named in Gal.
5 as "the fruit of the Spirit" while "factions, parties and
divisions" are referred to as "acts of the sinful nature,"
as the NIV renders it.
Our
Lord's greatness was his humility before God. He completely forgot self in
his devotion and commitment to his Father's will. It was in humility that
he received the gift of the Spirit from God: "I have given them the
glory that you have given me, that they may be one as we are one" (Jn.
17:22). The glory he received was God's presence. God's Spirit; the glory
we receive from Christ is his presence, his Spirit, which is the Holy
Spirit.
Pride
is the parent of faction and division, pride of egoism, partyism, and
institutionalism. Pride is too full of self to receive the free gifts of
God's grace. Being self-sufficient in its own strength, pride trusts in
its own creation, partyism. This is why the proud and haughty person has
more interest in drawing the party line than in accepting the gift of
unity.
The Spirit gives the gift of unity only to those who bear the fruit of humility and longsuffering, for unity is preserved only in an atmosphere of loving forbearance. Hate, rivalry, and ambition nurture partyism. "Love suffers long" is the spirit of unity. the Editor