ON CALLING A MAN BROTHER
We
can all surely agree that Jesus came to make men brothers, and that
is such a glorious truth. “When anyone is united to Christ,
there is a new world; the old order has gone, and a new order has
already begun,” 2 Cor. 5:17 tells us, and we can believe that
all who make up this new creation are brothers.
When God claims a man as His son, I can claim him as my brother.
And
so we recognize this in part by calling a man brother. No one
argues that we make a man our brother by calling him such, and but
few, if any, would contend we must call him brother if he is
our brother. He might be called by his first name, such as John,
or even by his last, such as Mr. Smith, and in recent
years we have been “brothering” everybody less. And it
could be that we have made something of a title of it, especially in
the case of preachers, with something like Brother Smith becoming
a compound proper noun. It seems somewhat different from John
Smith, our brother.
But
this is hardly a big deal either way you take it. It is a different
kind of problem that I have in mind. We still have lots of folk who
use brother in a canonical way, applying it or withdrawing it
on the basis of whether the person in question is approved by the
party, to put it bluntly. Some of our folk call everyone brother who
is in what we denominate as the Church of Christ, of whatever
persuasion, but no one else, not even one in the Christian Church or
the Disciples of Christ. Others take a narrower view, calling only
those brother who are within their fellowship, or what they
might call the faithful church. Then there is that emerging element
among us, which might be described as “the free spirits,”
who are pleased to call all those brother who make up the Christian
world, whether Trueblood, or Schaeffer, or Keith Miller. Or else they
hardly use the term at all, disdaining it as a religious relic, and
so put their relationships on a first name basis or the more formal
Mister, Doctor, or what.
We
can probably agree that whether or not we call each other brother in
addressing one another is not so important, but why we do or do not
is very important indeed. Some can not only be brash but even cruel
in their use of Mister when it is evident that the one referred to is
being excluded. On occasion I have been called Mister Garrett almost
as if I were being cursed, though ordinarily that way of being
addressed is most acceptable. In party circles to be called Mister,
while all others are called brother, is a way of saying, “You
are not OK.”
The
line drawn between whether one “brothers” a man or does
not is usually unclear, but it has to do with his doctrinal purity.
One sister that I chanced to meet on the street sometime back was
aghast a t all the things she had heard about me, including my
questionable occupation of philosophy teacher. “I don’t
know whether to call you brother or not,” she told me, rather
anxiously. Bless her, she was measuring me by herself, and since I
did not conform to her view of a faithful church member, I was really
out, not OK. For her to call one “brother” meant
that he is endorsed and accepted. I assured her that she was my
sister in the Lord because she was in Jesus, and that I loved her as
blood kin, and that there wasn’t much she could do about it,
whether she called me “brother” or not. The next time I
saw her she called me “brother”, explaining that her
preacher told her that I was a brother all right, though an erring
brother, and so could be called “brother”. But I think
that is cheating. To get it perfectly right such ones should address
me Brother-in-Error Garrett!
But
there is a footnote to be added about that dear sister. Buried deeply
in partyism, religion had long been oppressive to her, and she sought
peace in the confines of one of our straightest sects. But 10, she at
last turned to Jesus and to the peace that he allows, and she now
wears a smile that reflects that joy that so long eluded her. And she
has discovered that she has many more brothers than she realized,
just as many as God has sons.
Maybe
this little story has a lesson. Rather than turning our backs upon
our sectarian brothers, which may be just as sectarian, let’s
love the sectarianism out of them!
Maybe
this is what Alexander Campbell was trying to do in his response to
his antagonist of many years, Jeremiah Jeter, a prominent Baptist
minister of Richmond, Virginia, who obliged his generation with an
extended review of Campbell’s teaching, entitled Campbellism
Examined. Jeter was hard on Campbell, referring to him as. “a
disputant, so ready, adroit, and sarcastic,” and went on to
write 50 pages on “Campbellism in its chaos.”
In
the exchanges between them everything was “Mr. Campbell”
and “Mr. Jeter,” which was a common practice. But in his
review of Jeter’s essay, Campbell says: “Our brother
Jeter - brother, did I say? Yes, and I will not erase it - our
brother Jeter...” Campbell realized that God had sons outside
the Restoration Movement, and he acknowledged that Baptists had
believed in Jesus and obeyed him in baptism and were therefore his
brothers.
Campbell
disagreed with some within the Movement as much as he did with
Jeter, one of those being Barton W. Stone, who had views on the
preexistence of Christ that bore similarity to the old Arian heresy,
views that concerned Campbell no little. They too corresponded at
length, doing a bit of in-fighting in an effort to work out the
differences. One of Campbell’s letters begins with: “Brother
Stone: I will call you brother because you once told me that you
could conscientiously and devoutly pray to the Lord Jesus Christ as
though there was no other God in the universe than he.” Stone
responded with the same brotherly felicitation.
The important thing here is not that men who differ are addressing each other as brothers, but that they are accepting each other as brothers. To treat each other as brothers is the big deal, however little or much we may actually use the term.